When I was growing up in small towns, porn (at least of the variety offered to heterosexual men) wasn’t that hard to find. There was always an X-rated theater not far away, Playboy and Penthouse were in most of the convenience stores, and so on. The selection was limited though, and acquiring or viewing it usually involved some degree of embarrassment or inconvenience, perhaps even a trip to a drive-in or an aging urban theater whose manager hoped to find fiscal solvency by swapping Mary Poppins for Debbie Does Dallas.
By the time I had sex for the first time, I was really looking forward to it. My boyfriend and I had planned a getaway weekend in London for the occasion, interrupting the long-distance-ness of our relationship for a few short days. I could just imagine it: typical British rain tapping romantically against the window of our little hotel, while I left virginhood forever in the arms of someone I loved. Perfect, right?
Not so much. Here’s the thing: it hurt. A lot.
Male Contraception – A Woman’s View
Male birth control methods -beyond condoms and sterilization- are like a sweet dream from which you’re rudely awakened. Just as you reach out for the prize, bang it’s snatched away! Not much has changed here from one generation to another but hang on – some exciting research now underway might make this dream a reality in the not so distant future.
We’ll explore this topic with two viewpoints, one from a woman and the other from a man. We’d love to hear your thoughts, too, so comment below!
This podcast comes from sexual health expert Debby Herbenick, PhD, MPH
QUESTION: My partner and I recently started having sexual intercourse, and neither one of us are virgins. He has a lot of girth, or circumference, to his penis. Another problem is that I'm on a low-estrogen birth control and have difficulties with vaginal lubrication, but he doesn't like to use lube. Is there anything I can do to make it easier for us, and easier for me to get lubricated vaginally?